Um, ok, slightly freaking out now!
Trying to stay calm, trying to be rational!
Ok, where to start? As a general rule I’m pretty rational and try to think things through and come to the most logical conclusion, however on this particular occasion I’m struggling to do that.
Four years ago my dad died. It was a complete shock, he wasn’t ill and to make matters worse we weren’t speaking at the time, (long story, some other time) he had cold and flu like symptoms, (Um, check, I have those) he collapsed and the doctors said it was due to over exertion after being sick. (Um, check again!)
Three days later he was dead.
His body just shut down and he died due to multiple organ failure, it took two weeks of prolonged tests to figure out what actually killed him.
To this day I still don’t know what it was that killed him, as the women he was living with at (my mum and dad divorced when I was 7 and I was estranged from him for over 10 years) the time wouldn’t allow me or my brother to attend the post mortem.
So, should I be freaking out?
I’m feeling a little vulnerable and I haven’t said anything to N about it as he’d just freak out even more than I already am.
Does anyone have any advice?, I’m waiting on a doctors appt, but without actually knowing what my dad died from it’s a little difficult to point them in the right direction.
OK. Firstly, your cold and flu symptoms are probably…umm…a cold or flu. Secondly, your dad being a man and all, he’d probably been having other symptoms which he’d been studiously ignoring and it was probably one of those which contributed to the organ failure. When L’s mum died (also of multiple organ failure), she was ‘well’ one minute and gone the next, after only saying that she ‘felt a bit breathless’. However, she also had fibromyalgia (sp?), rheumatoid arthritis and a shit-load of other stuff which she kept pretty damn quiet about, so she wasnt as ‘well’ as she’d have everyone believe. She also smoked like a chimney.
Take a couple of deep breaths, take it easy for a couple of days until you can get to the docs, and make them test you for everything you can possibly think of. Im sure you’ll be fine. ((hug)) s x
Comment by Stepfordtart — June 27, 2008 @ 7:24 pm |
99% of the things we worry about NEVER happen. Don’t worry, it only gives you ANXIETY. Deep breaths. Think positive. ((((hugs)))) Stay in the NOW. The NOW is the only thing you have control over. You can NOT control the past nor the future. I’m sending you lots of good health vibes. You should get a family history of ANY medical issues to give to your own doctor. NOone in my family lives pat 60, so I only have about 8 years left. I plan to beat those odds.
Comment by boXx — June 27, 2008 @ 10:12 pm |
Your worries are understandable. I am now terrified my husband is going to die. He will be fine and you will be fine! Good luck at the doctors, I will be thinking of you.
Comment by theskyisfallingin — June 30, 2008 @ 10:39 pm |